Here’s Part 3 of 11 Ego Tricks.
The final four tricks of the ego’s trade (that are listed in this series… the ego is by no means limited to what’s here):
8. Victimization. The ego is a victim of monumental proportions. It is externally referenced and thinks that things happen to us from the outside.
Symptoms: Thinking or feeling that someone has done something to you unjustly and you had nothing to do with it, and there’s nothing you can do about it; thinking that you can’t do something you want to do because of someone else or because of some outer condition. Feeling limited. Thinking or feeling that your life would be better IF ONLY, and the IF ONLY part depends on something or someone outside yourself.
Spiritual Solution: Recognition of your Infinite I AM Power. Remembering that we each and all create our reality, all of it, and that our consciousness is the cause of our experiences. The Law is the Law, and the Law says that consciousness creates.
Affirmation: I Am a powerful reality creator and I now create a reality I love!!!
9. Martyrdom. The ego thinks sacrifice has to hurt and that other people have to pay for our hurt.
Symptoms: making people feel bad, even if only slightly, for something you did supposedly ‘for them’ which meant you had to give up something you wanted. Be aware. This is can be an especially subtle and tricky one!
Spiritual Solution: Choice governed by Love. Everyone is making their own choices and creating their own outcomes. Understanding and wisdom of the power in each of us to do whatever we desire. We have free will. When you choose with the intention of Love, the highest outcome unfolds, for all involved.
Affirmation: I choose according to LOVE!
10. I don’t need any help. I’ve got it all under control. I can do it all by myself. There’s a distinction between self-sufficiency and refusing to ask for, accept or receive support. The former is a doorway to heaven, the latter is a gateway to hell. You get to choose.
Symptoms: Refusing to ask for support, yet feeling as if you’re ‘in over your head’. Always there to help everyone else, yet never allowing others to support you (my hand is raised on this one!) Not wanting to appear incompetent or like you don’t have it all together, so you’ll struggle, even when you could use support. A belief that you have to do it all on your own, and that if you delegate, other people won’t get it right (which is a variation on the old fable: if you want it done right, you’ve got to do it yourself).
Spiritual Solution: Humility. Support systems, which includes friends, family, your faith community, and anywhere else you could garner support. Understanding that no man or woman is an island; we need each other. Firm boundaries.
Affirmation: I am well supported, well guided and well led as a being of light, love & truth!
11. What would people think? I was bred on this question, or a variation of it: what would the neighbors think if you did that? or what would the brothers and sisters in the congregation think if you did that? Know that this question has countless flavors, substitute whatever group of people you want, the essence is the same.
Symptoms: Addiction to getting approval. Needing validation. Asking several people what they think when you already know what to do (though you may be inwardly afraid of doing it) so instead of moving with the guidance of your Inner Being, you’re either seeking validation from the outside before you act, or you’re hoping someone will offer you an out. (Either way, you’re only fooling yourself.)
Spiritual Solution: FOLLOW YOUR INNER WISDOM. Your Highest Most Holy Self always knows what to do, when to do it and with whom to do it and will communicate it clearly to you as you sit, still your mind and listen. Meditation. Prayer for clarity, courage and alignment with your HIGHEST MOST HOLY SELF.
Affirmation: I now align my mortal mind with with the wisdom of my Highest Most Holy Self and I follow this guidance with courage!!!
I pray this series has contributed to your awareness.
Remember, you are the light of the world. Act like it.
Much love,
VAL
